Where we go from here: Remaining firm in our faith

We are never comfortable talking about dark moments in our lives. Sometimes we are at a loss for words. I could have chosen a host of other topics to cover; it would have been easier. But in order to move forward, we must not be afraid to talk, to ask questions, to share our concerns.

In his letter last month, Bishop Daniel E. Flores expressed the sorrow of the Church for the sexual abuse of minors and abuse of power in the Church reported from different parts of the country. He provided us with guidance and hope during these dark days as the Church undergoes a cleansing for sins of the past. He asked us all “to pray and do penance for the harm that so many have suffered, and for the renewal of a spirit of humility, service and evangelical life among all the bishops and priests of the country.”

Bishop Flores also provided us with an important reminder. “It is necessary that we all continue with the mission that the Lord has entrusted us.”

“We cannot be paralyzed,” he told reporters during a press conference during the national V Encuentro Sept. 20-23 in Grapevine, Texas. “There is work to do,” he said.

During the V Encuentro gathering, more than 3,500 Hispanic/Latino Catholics showed how we move forward.

The joy of our faith resonated throughout each moment and a day of the Encuentro. La alegría de nuestra fe vive. The joy of our faith stands firm in the love of Christ, and our faith, centered in Christ, helps us from letting any crisis take us off center.

After reading the bishop’s letter, many have shared their response to his request for prayer and penance. Some religious communities are spending dedicated time before the Blessed Sacrament every Friday for nine weeks; others are fasting on Fridays. Some Catholic schools are praying together. Others are praying the Rosary.

How are you responding?

As we pray, we must also take additional steps. As parents, tías, tíos, grandparents — we must remain vigilant in our homes and beyond our casitas. Bishop Flores stressed in his letter the importance of continuing to follow through with the ongoing “Protecting God’s Children” program required of all laypersons and clergy who work with youth and vulnerable adults. The training provided through the program opens our eyes and provides us with a greater awareness of what we can each do to protect our children. We are in this together. Yes, it does take a village. The effectiveness of these programs put in place to protect children has helped decrease the number of cases nationwide.

Mark M. Gray, a survey researcher for The Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate (CARA), highlights some important details and provides some context in “Pain Never Disappears from Unhealed Wounds,” a piece he wrote for the center’s blog on Aug. 28. (http://nineteensixty-four.blogspot.com/2018/08/pain-never-disappears-from-unhealed.html).

He notes, “No new wave of abuse has emerged in the United States.” He adds, “The clergy sex abuse scandal unfolding in the news today is the same public scandal that erupted with the national media reports in 2002...Just as then, the abuse in the headlines most often occurred in the 1960s through the 1980s.”

Gray includes figures of cases reported since 2004 and the year the alleged abuse began, which shows a decrease. However, as he notes, “Nothing is acceptable other than zero.”

To get to zero, it will take all of us working together. At the closing Mass for the Encuentro, Archbishop José H. Gomez of Los Angeles reminded us of the role we have as lay people. Citing St. Juan Diego as an example, he said, “Jesus entrusted the mission of his Church in the New World to a lay person.

“I believe that this moment in the Church — is the hour of the laity. It is the time for saints. In the spirit of St. Juan Diego, I believe the Lord is calling each of you to ‘go to the bishops.’ He is calling the lay faithful to work together with the bishops to renew and rebuild his Church.”

Archbishop Gustavo Garcia-Silller of San Antonio expressed a similar point on the opening day of the Encuentro. As he acknowledged our pain and heartbreak “by the faults” of our shepherds, and the need “to do everything we can for the healing for all victims of these abuses,” he also reminded us not to be afraid and to allow the Holy Spirit “to inflame our hearts.”

“In these times,” he said, “only parrhesia, the courage of the baptized, will return the Church, the Body of Christ, her moral authority.”

Indeed, this is our time to continue carrying out the mission of the Church. We cannot run away. We have a responsibility to confront the ugly realities of the past, and to walk together, to acompañar, as Bishop Flores tell us, our brothers in sisters who are hurting. We must remain centered in Christ, for Jesus is our light and our salvation in times of darkness (Psalm 27:1).

(Originally published in October 2018 edition of The Valley Catholic newspaper)

What we can do

When Wyne Cler from Denver Colorado heard volunteers were needed, she signed up, booked a flight to McAllen, and came with her 13-year-old daughter Lucy to the Humanitarian Respite Center. She did not know what she would be doing, knew her Spanish was rudimentary, but she knew she wanted to help in any way she could.

As she held and rocked a baby from Honduras in her arms so the mother could rest, Cler said “We have to do this. How can we not come?” She knows what it is like to be an immigrant. Cler was 2 1/2 years old when she came to the United States with her parents as refugees from Vietnam in 1975. “I don’t care what your politics are; we have to do the right thing,” she said.

Retirees Steve, 85, and Ruth Mohyla, 82, from Cypress, Texas also acted on the impulse to help. “We wanted to do something.” The couple drove down to the Rio Grande Valley and heard about the Humanitarian Respite Center at their hotel.

Awakened by the cries of immigrant children who have been separated from their parents, people locally and from different parts of Texas and the United States have stopped what they were doing, some taking time off from work, to take action.

We have all been impacted, shocked that this could happen in our nation, that children could be used as pawns in a deterrence measure that is cruel and unjust. Bishop Daniel E. Flores in an early statement said, “the systematic separation of immigrant parents and children at the border is simply cruel…This nation, for the sake of its soul, must learn to weep with these children, and all the children who are being instrumentalized and commodified in our midst.”

As we cry with the children who must feel lost and alone, we cannot even fathom the long-term damage this is causing them and our nation. It is heartbreaking to hear the cries of children who are calling out for their parents. The cries published by ProPublica are but a glimpse of these dark days. Dr. Amy Cohen, a child psychiatrist who came from Los Angeles and talked to some of the children and mothers, estimates that 90 percent of the people who come through the respite center door have had some type of moderate to severe trauma.

But we find hope in the midst of tragedy. We find it in each other.

A documentarian who came to the border to cover the story, asked some good questions that we see answered here by the response of hundreds, even thousands — “How is God at work in the midst of this crisis? And how can we see that and participate?”

We see it every day. Because of our humanity, we look for ways to help a brother and sister in need. For four years volunteers have helped to keep the Humanitarian Respite Center open. To date, more than 100,000 immigrant men, women and children have found rest at the center, which first opened at Sacred Heart Church in McAllen and is now at a temporary site nearby. Sister Norma Pimentel, with the Missionaries of Jesus, who oversees the work of the respite center as executive director of Catholic Charities of the Rio Grande Valley, reminds us we are restoring people’s dignity with our simple acts of kindness — with a warm welcome, “Bienvenidos!” a warm meal, a shower, a smile. You can see the transformation occur within minutes.

While at the respite center one evening, a nine-month old baby delighted after a fussy spell when his mother fed him small pieces of carrots and potatoes from a warm bowl of soup. As she first mashed the pieces between her fingers, she told me this was his first warm meal in days. Across the room, a three-year-old boy was taking turns feeding himself and feeding his father with a spoon. Witnessing these simple moments, filled me with joy, and with a renewed energy to do more.

God is certainly at work daily through the volunteers from here in the Rio Grande Valley who help year round and from the volunteers who are coming from Los Angeles, Laredo, Dallas, Kansas City, Toledo Ohio, New York City, New Jersey and countless other locations. They all have come in response to a spontaneous desire to help in some way.

We are witnessing “an extra measure of cariños and solidarity as an expression of support” said one volunteer coordinator. This is evident in the overwhelming response from people from across the nation, via donations, prayers and volunteering.

Four years ago, when Sister Norma asked the parish priest to borrow the parish hall for a few days, no one imagined it would continue this long. The days, weeks, months ahead are filled with uncertainty in regard to the different immigration realities, but we cannot lose hope. In the words of Bishop Flores, we must continue “as a community to pray for families and children affected by this enforcement policy, and that our country’s laws be crafted and administered with human compassion.”

What we are doing, taking action with our prayers and fasting, by speaking up and contacting our leaders, by staying informed, by donating, by volunteering, is the visible reality of God at work in our midst.

Even children of all ages are doing what they can. One group of children from San Francisco sent a bundle of cards with hand drawn pictures and messages. “Sending love from San Francisco” read one written in crayons. An older child wrote, “les quería enviar un cariño mensaje de apoyo y solidaridad....Todo el país está pensando en ustedes y no les van a dejar solos.” “Eres bienvenido aquí. Estamos contigo.”

At a prayer vigil on June 20, Bishop Flores said, “We recognize that God puts us on the road that other people travel so that we might help them. That is the spirit of this walk. That God puts us really today on the road that helps to be servants of those who walk....”

A nine-year-old from Dallas, Sean Bertram, who came with his father to the respite center, served water his first day to thirsty immigrants who had just arrived. He said it was his first volunteer experience, and his best decision ever. “It’s the least I can do,” he said. His example reminds us all that we can each do something.

(Originally published in July 2018 edition of The Valley Catholic newspaper)