Finding joy in the ordinary

Sometimes we take for granted the joy of sorting and washing laundry or ironing clothes. On a rare weekend with some extra time at home I experienced the simple pleasure of caring for our home. Often cleaning can feel like a chore, something I have to do between rushing from one activity to the another.

But the simple act of slowing down this particular weekend allowed me to appreciate a quiet peace. The clean smell of laundry, the pressed shirts ready for the week, life neatly sorted, gave me a new appreciation for the housework before me. The moment reminded me cleaning can be a form of prayer. It also reminded me that every moment is sacred.

St. Thérèse of Lisieux taught us her “little way” of doing every act, no matter how small, with love. Every act we do for our families at home exemplifies St. Therese’s self-surrender “to offer our Lord the flowers of little sacrifices.” Even St. Teresa of Calcutta worked alongside her sisters and maintained a cleaning routine.

These days we live in a culture fixated on attention-seeking moments. Many of the women I admire are not looking for the spotlight; they work behind the scenes. Take for example Bertha Garcia, 83, who has been a member of the altar society at Our Lady of Sorrows Church in McAllen for more than 50 years. She said washing the altar linens and decorating the altar gives her time to pray, sing and think.

Bertha finds pleasure knowing her work is appreciated. She shared a story about a child who asked her mother how it was possible that the altar was always decorated with flowers when she never saw anyone changing the arrangements. Her mother’s explanation: little angels came at night. Our parishes, our homes, our communities are filled with “little angels” whose work does not make headlines.

When it comes to our own homes, we cannot neglect our safe havens. Pope Francis in his encyclical “Laudato Si’, on Care for Our Common Home,” devotes a section on the “Ecology of Daily Life” in which he addresses the “setting in which people live their lives.” “These settings,” he said, “influence the way we think, feel and act.”

“In our rooms, our homes, our workplaces and neighborhoods, we use our environment as a way of expressing our identity.” He adds, “…when it is disorderly, chaotic or saturated with noise and ugliness, such over stimulation makes it difficult to find ourselves integrated and happy.”

I am guilty of neglecting my home at times. Guilty too of consumerism which has contributed to some cluttered spaces. For a year now I have been trying to declutter. While I have made some progress, I have much more work to do.

In “Laudato Si’,” the Holy Father also addressed the need for moderation. “Christian spirituality proposes a growth marked by moderation and the capacity to be happy with little. It is a return to that simplicity which allows us to stop and appreciate the small things, to be grateful for the opportunities which life affords us…”

He goes on to talk about the need for inner peace, which he notes, “is reflected in a balanced lifestyle together with a capacity for wonder which takes us to a deeper understanding of life.” “Many people today,” he said, “sense a profound imbalance which drives them to frenetic activity and makes them feel busy, in a constant hurry which in turn leads them to ride rough-shod over everything around them.”

This Advent season, as we wait and prepare for the light of Christ, we need to slow down and appreciate the moment before us. It is easy as we prepare for Christmas to get caught up in the rush of decorating and shopping, just as it is easy throughout the year to rush from one project to another.

Pope Francis writes about “an attitude of the heart, one which approaches life with serene attentiveness, which is capable of being fully present to someone without thinking of what comes next, which accepts each moment as a gift from God to be lived to the full.” (Laudato Si’ #226)

Sometimes it seems we are chasing the grand moments of life and forget about the ordinary, everyday moments. Advent and Christmas remind us to pay attention. Note that Jesus, the savior of the world, was born in a simple manger in Bethlehem. I imagine his Blessed Mother Mary must have taken great care of their home throughout his childhood.

We are fortunate to have a home to keep in order. I think about the hundreds of thousands of immigrants from Central America who have left everything to find a safe place to raise their children. To date more than 57,000 people have received assistance at the Immigrant Respite Center at Sacred Heart Church in McAllen. Looking at the global picture, 65.3 million people have been displaced from their homes by conflict and persecution according to a Global Trends report. Their lives have been disrupted. The simple pleasure of cleaning their homes does not exist.

We are fortunate to have our homes, fortunate to have some stability; how can we not honor the blessing of keeping what we have in order for ourselves and for our families? Our homes are a safe haven, a place for peace, it is up to us as good stewards to maintain them as sacred spaces. And as Andrew Motion, an English poet, advises “honor the miraculousness of the ordinary.”

(Originally published in December 2016 edition of The Valley Catholic newspaper)